• By entering the stage area, you're agreeing to be "read" by John. John cannot control who "comes through." So there are no "passive audience members." For instance, John has read the cameraman, soundman, and someone in the next room during rehearsals. If you feel you'll be too embarrassed, too frazzled, or just not interested, we ask that you give up your seat to someone who's anxious for a reading.

• Have no expectations. You may REALLY want to connect with one specific relative...but there's a good chance they may not come through. Keep your mind open and welcome whoever comes through during the reading. We don't want you to be disappointed or broken-hearted if your chosen loved one doesn't come through. As John says, "Please don't put earthly expectations on a heavenly experience."

• This can be an emotional experience! Know you're in a safe environment with lots of support — and lots of tissues. John moves quickly from person to person, which can be jarring. There are plenty of people to share your experience and feelings.

• Don't get "psychic amnesia." John coined this phrase to describe what happens when he goes to someone in the audience and they all of a sudden forget their family tree. You can use the following worksheet to jog your memory of your ENTIRE family.

• Validation Is Important! Since John does not know your friends and relatives, it's very important you give feedback. A simple nod of the head, a yes or no answer goes a long way in a reading. Please don't give more information than John asks for.

• Write it down! Have a pen and paper ready to write whatever messages John may pass along. If you are with someone, they can write down the information for you. If John reads the person sitting next to you, it'd be a nice gesture to take notes for them to review later. Chances are this info will take on more meaning when you get home and think about the reading.

• Appreciate the message! Even if you are not the person being "read," John wants you to walk away knowing your loved ones are always around you, and to thank them in some way — a prayer, a simple acknowledgment, or a kind thought.